Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Is online dating is good or bad?/

I was blog hopping today.Then boboy blog's caught my attention he post about "Paying for Dating Site" for me

Hi boboy ,

Very nice post..However for me i met my hubby thru online i'm proud of it.There's nothing wrong about it but for some people i know they stoop down,people met online or from dating site.Maybe because they think..highly their self,that they are more more first class that i do/.Well for me doesn't matter as long that the result is good.I Love my hubby and i Love my life to ruin it..by listening the gossip.

"dadaism said... thanks for your constant visits."

anyway about your questions regarding my skins, yes i design all of them myself. but the images are from deviant art. i just play around with photoshop. it's therapeutic for me to work with images after working all day with words.

i am glad you liked them.

about the paid online dating sites, i believe it is a symptom of our collective problems with forging deep and genuine connections with people. for me it does not really matter, love is love no matter how one finds it.

i hope you have found yours.

I like what she said ...yes Love is everywhere...

A net dating service, also known as online dating or Internet dating, is an example of a dating system and allows individuals, couples and groups to meet online and possibly develop a romantic or sexual relationship. Net dating services provide un-moderated matchmaking through the use of personal computers, the Internet, or even cell phones.

Such services generally allow people to provide personal information, then search for other individuals using criteria such as age range, gender and location. Most sites allow members to upload photos of themselves and browse the photos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts, online chat, and message boards. Sites sometimes allow people to register for free but may offer services which require a monthly fee.

Many sites are broad-based, with members from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired.

Surce from Wikipedia.


earthlingorgeous said...

I think what makes online dating bad for some is the intent... if the intent is pure, meaning not wanting to con anyone and really there to find their one true love then it's good but if they are there to play games then it's bad... it's the people taking advantage of such good intentions who makes such place bad but really if the people in there are as honest as the ones with successful love stories like you here then online dating is generally good, in my opinion.

Allen's Darling said...

Very well said Earthlinggorgeous

Thats why?/sometimes i just felt sad to those woman doing such conning games/lied too much and pretending to be single mom.All the while they are very much married.But"WHO CARES" as long they can get "Money" they know its wrong doing but they don't have a choice....they will said" its better than steal" and some quotes "Its tagalog version sori but don't know in English..."aanhin pa ang damo kung patay na ang kabayo"thats what they always said...when i was there in PI before...because i'm almost most of the time in internet cafe...so what they said..."Diskarte lang" mismo asawa pa nila nag-udyok na magchat...i felt pity for the guy keep sending money almost everyweek..."wink" thats Life...so better way is investigate them first.Thats all i can say because online dating is so known now adays.

bobbyboy said...

Hiya :)

Yes, I agree with much of what EG and you have said. Like I have mentioned previously in other blogs and comments, I have friends who have met online and have successful relationships ^_^. It can be done and as more time goes by, more and more online relationships are working. This is like music to my ears!

I wrote that particular post because I was very curious why people would pay for a dating site when there are many other large sites that are free of charge. Luckily, because of friends like you two, I did get some insight to the answer, thank you!

When I first made my website, I posted a piece about online dating and what I thought about it. I still feel strongly about it because over the years I have met in person many of the people that I had first met online. To save you the trouble of going to my website, I'll re-post it here:

"My opinion on online dating.

Since the advent of computers that allow many of us access to the whole wide world (WWW), people have had many more opportunities than they normally would.
Aside from business, information, learning etc, people have the chance to meet others from far off lands, or even next door. We can talk to each other with ever growing ease regardless of the thousands of miles between us.
Many sites have popped up that bring many of us closer together. Friend sites, pen pal sites, dating sites, you name it. I looked for some pen pal sites a few years ago, but didn't really find what i was looking for. I decided to join some dating sites because it seemed that all the people were there. I didn't need, nor was afforded, the time for a date, especially from a long distance away. Now that I have had some experience with dating sites and their members, I also have an opinion.

I have heard many people say, mostly from reading forums, that it is dangerous to meet someone online and that there are many scams also. Well, here my take on the first point: it is dangerous.

It can be dangerous to walk in a thunderstorm. It can be dangerous to walk on a slippery surface. It can be dangerous to drink too much wine. So yes, it can be dangerous to meet someone in person from online. This is common sense. However, it has been my experience that:

EVERYONE that i have met in person has not been dangerous.
85 percent of these people became my friends.
I am a better person because of these people.

If you think about it a second you may realize that most people have e-mail. Many of these people also enjoy something that others enjoy also like, sports, reading, hiking, language study etc. If you are in an online club or forum because of these interests, does that make YOU a dangerous person? Well, you are exactly the possible dangerous person that others talk about! Great! Now you have found your first non-dangerous person-YOU. This is my first point of clarity.

Second point.
I have experienced meeting many new friends. I did meet the first 2 by myself, I felt comfortable, it was in my city, it was in a public place and I had alot of talk time with them first. And so on it went. Next time there were more people added to the 3 of us. Many different backgrounds and cultures and life experiences. We all clicked because we all fit into point number 1.

On the other hand, i have received the usual spam and scam messages and e-mails from the what seems like overabundance of fake profiles. We are lucky because we KNOW these profiles are fake and useless.
There are the ones (mostly males) who are pervs. They are easily brought forth as such. They usually give it away immidiately with their words. With just a bit of common sense, these pervs can be avoided as well.

So, all in all, i'm saying that online dating is pretty safe. Let's use common sense before we actually meet in real time. Ask another friend if that guy or girl is cool. Many members know each other in that country or city. Only meet them with other trusted people there also. Meet only in public places. Tell someone beforehand who, when, why, where and how you're meeting this or these people.

Let's let the cyberworld be to our advantage for many things, including dating."

From: http://bobbyboy.net/Onlinefriendsdates.html


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